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How do you complete “Ciao bell'uomo, come stai oggi, buongiorno signore, sono Jennifer Rose Louis, come ti chiami”?

10.06.2025 00:56

How do you complete “Ciao bell'uomo, come stai oggi, buongiorno signore, sono Jennifer Rose Louis, come ti chiami”?

The phrase, realistically, ought to be: “Ciao, come stai? Mi chiamo Jennifer Rose; (tu) come ti chiami?”.

It’s a woman introducing herself to a man, the question is complete and it just requires an answer before adding more and going further, an answer like: “Ciao, mi chiamo Giovanni; piacere di conoscerti” or something along those lines.

The phrase seems complete to me, but I’ve never heard anybody using the expression “Bell’uomo”, Italian women just would not say that and it’s also unlikely that women approach men, it’s usually the other way round because of social mores. “Oggi” is redundant; “Come stai?” implies “oggi”. And nobody gives their surname in such an informal meeting, “Mi chiamo Jennifer Rose” is enough for that first exchange.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?